Negative self-talk drastically impacts the quality of our lives. Whether you acknowledge it or not, during those bursts of negativity, every single word that you say to yourself matters. And there might even be some legit grounds for thinking or talking this way, but if you understand what kind of long-term impact it has on your life, you would immediately change it.
So, how do you break free from this negative self-talk? First, acknowledge it. Notice what and how you talk to yourself. Preferably, write it down. Now look at your negative words and flip them over. Rephrase and reframe those words. Change the meaning. And even if you are dealing with something very unpleasant and destructive in your life, the good “rule of thumb” to remember is that nothing is permanent. Rephrase it from a “disaster” to a “challenge”, from “I’m always sick” to “not feeling well, today”, from a “failure” to a “lesson”, etc.
If you don’t know exactly what you’re saying when you are talking down to yourself, ask your friends and family. They will be able to pinpoint it really quickly. A lot of times we don’t even notice all of those horrible things we are telling ourselves. And this awareness on its own might be curative enough for you. You wouldn’t even think about telling these mean things to someone you love. Change your words – Change your meaning. Change your meaning – Change your reality.
Express Gratitude any chance you get. You can’t be grateful and angry or mean at the same time. It’s a fact. Choose gratitude. Think of all of the things you can be grateful for: your life, your family, your body, your home, etc. And just the fact that you are alive! Search for the beauty in the world and in yourself. That is the key to happiness.
Be nice to yourself: kind, patient, and understanding. Treat yourself like you would a close friend. Speak to yourself as you would to someone you love.
You are enough! Give yourself a break, a little more love, and a lot more compassion. You are doing a great job – and it’s time you tell yourself that.
Till next time,
Love and Take Care of Yourself! Because You are Absolutely Worth It!